I'm the admin of an "are we dating the same guy" group, here's my advice based on everything I see

1. Stop texting men before the date. Just meet them and if they suck, end the date. It will be okay even if he's mean to uou. You'll be fine. So many girls get delusional from texting guys for days, weeks even before a date

2. Talk to at least two guys at a time, so you feel easy about ditching a guy for being weird. It's so much harder to cut it off if you don't have a distraction. Sorry not sorry.

3. Don't lie in the groups. Believe me I've been pissed at guys or just wanted to know if exes are single and i fight demons to not post them in the groups, BUT DO NOT DO IT. It ruins the integrity of the whole thing.

4. Pick a fight with guys 3 months into seeing them. No matter what. How he responds will show you how he feels about you. If he calls it quits. He doesn't like you and you saved yourself from a never ending situationship. If he wants to fix it, lock in, he's locked in